You’re probably reading this because you know deep down that something doesn’t feel right for you in your life. It could be a relationship, job or a living arrangement. 
A few years ago, I was living a life that seemed great on the surface. I appeared happy. I was with a nice man, I had a good job, I was doing things that felt good and life was convenient. Although, underneath the surface, there were some things that felt wrong for me.
Life felt like an effort. I didn’t feel at home – I was living in a city that I didn’t really want to be in. I felt disconnected. I felt an obligation to stay in this city because I’d built up a life there. Even though my partner loved me, I sometimes felt alone.
I wasn’t listening to my ‘gut’
There came a time when life became unbearable and I knew I needed to change. I considered one thing that I really wanted to do with my life, and I started from there. I must admit, this one thing was pretty big – time out to travel alone for 6 months. My partner was excited about the idea as he wanted some time out too.
This gave me an opportunity to sort out what I really wanted to do with my life on a long-term basis. I ended up leaving the old life. It was very a difficult decision. Lots of adjustments and finding a new normal. Although now, I feel I’ve made the right decision.
So how do you know when things are not right for you and it’s time for a change?
Your ‘gut’ feels empty
When you think about your situation, you often feel a palpable ‘flat’ feeling in your gut (belly area), like it’s needing some energy, fire or inner drive. You may even have gut or constipation problems.
You’re not sleeping very well
You may wake up in the middle of the night with a hollow or empty feeling. You may worry and feel anxiety about your situation.
Life feels like an effort
There may not be much flow with what you’re doing, and it can feel ‘up hill’. It may feel bland, and ‘flat’ There isn’t much spontaneity.
You feel stuck with your situation and believe there’s no other option
You often think about what else you’d like to be doing or somewhere else you’d like to be. There’s a feeling like you can’t change your situation.
Your head chatters to you a lot justifying you’re okay with your situation
You tend spend a lot of time thinking about how it’s all okay and you need to remind yourself often that life is ‘good’
You have friends, although you’re not ‘fitting in’
You may know a lot of people and have a community, although there isn’t much connection, emotional intimacy or a real buddy that’s available for you.
If you’d like to know more,
Click Here for some info on how to trust your inner wisdom and how to make decisions that work for you
With Love and Blessings,
Jaya
